Parenting 101 And The Decision To Move

Parenting 101

We believe that one of the things we, as parents, have gotten right over the years is that we have included our kids in everything we’ve done.

Whether it was early on in youth ministry, opening a coffee shop, starting a youth center, adopting, or moving to another country, we’ve processed and done it all as a family. While this wasn’t necessarily intentional, it has served us all well.

When Nate felt called into youth ministry, we made sure it was going to be the right move for our family. Our kids ultimately loved attending youth group, going on mission’s trips, and spending many hours in the youth room at church.

During two of the five years we managed and then owned the coffee shop, Stacy homeschooled Kayla and Aubry. It was not unusual for our customers to be greeted by a couple of little girls standing on stools, ready to take their orders and money at the cash register.

During this time, Dylan, Kayla, and Aubry were also frequently found conversing with teenage kids at the youth center every day after school.

What we did intentionally decide early on was that we wanted to model for our kids what it means to follow Jesus, wherever that might lead us.

Sometimes that has created uncertainty, and many times it has taken us all out of our comfort zones! However, there are not too many decisions in life that we regret, because we know we have had our two greatest priorities in mind in all things – God and our family.

The Decision to Move

It took many months to finally come to a decision on whether or not we would move our family across the Atlantic Ocean. We spent the first few months prayerfully considering whether God was calling us and preparing us for this next season of ministry.

Then we had to think through how this decision was going to impact each of our kids’ lives.

From our oldest, Dylan, who married his bride, Sara, in 2019, to Kayla, Aubry, Daleska, and our youngest, Emily…we asked the question, “If God is calling us to this new role, how is He going to work through each of our kids in this decision?”

It’s amazing how God worked in and through our family as we began to share with our kids what He had laid on our hearts.

Briefly, here is how He paved the way…

  • Knowing that Dylan would not make the move with us, we were concerned how he would feel about his parents and siblings moving so far away. A few months after we knew that we would accept this position, Dylan proposed to his longtime girlfriend, Sara (Johnson). This was a tremendous relief as not only would Dylan and Sara begin their season, we would be around for the wedding and first year of their marriage.
  • Soon after we decided to accept this position, and with no knowledge of what we were processing, Kayla made the choice to only focus on one major instead of two and graduate in 3 years. This left the door open for her to join us the first few years in Spain.
  • Ever since her freshman year of high school, Aubry had dreamed of attending university somewhere in Europe. Initially she began looking in Germany, but then, thanks to two native  Spanish speakers in our family, she decided to look at universities in Spain. Little did she know, at that same time we were processing the possibility of our family’s move to Spain.
  • Daleska and Emily are native Spanish speakers, which will be a tremendous advantage in their transition. God has also orchestrated several details throughout this process that have prepared them for what’s ahead and have brought them peace.  

We know that each of our kids will continue to move along in his/her own life path, but we are so thankful God has entrusted us to bring them along throughout our own journey!

Counting our many blessings,

Nate, Stacy, and Family

As associate regional coordinators for Europe and the Middle East, Nate and Stacy will be working alongside Regional Coordinators Patrick and Jamie Nachtigall as together they help connect, encourage, and resource the Church of God throughout the region. Nate and Stacy will have a particular emphasis on church planting and church health, walking alongside pastors and leaders in the region connected through the EuropeX church network. 

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